Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Friday, September 16, 2011
Real men don't harass women
Found on Hollaback Mumbai, an absolutely brilliant comic I found drawn by Tory for a pre-teen on how to deal with perverts and the aftermath. Really, really REALLY wish someone had told me all this those days! Sigh. Please share with your girlfriends, sisters and cousins 'cos you never know when a desperado lies await to prey on them.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
The Sanath Saga
The semifinals are tonight! Fingers crossed that we have it in us to sail through to the finals. Despite the OKish performance of our boys in the Caribbean, this T20 world cup will be remembered as the one where Sanath Jayasuriya really shouldn't have played.
Its almost ironic, just 3 years ago Sana boy was setting the Caribbean on fire with his destructive batting in the 50 over World Cup, the headlines then were about Atapattu not being played in the team. Now it seems that the tables have turned and to rub more salt in to his wounds: while most of us think that Marvan should have been in the team,how many of us harbour the same sentiment toward Sanath?
Sanath Jayasuriya had a meteoric rise to fame, first being included as a leggie and a useful middle order batsmen. His success at pinch-hitting prompted a promotion up the batting order and the rest as we all know was history in the making.
His batting record speaks for itself. He was one of the most feared and destructive batsmen in any form of the game, be it test, one day or T20's. But enough is enough, it time to say goodbye and let your legend live on Sanath. Time to head back to Matara and attend the funerals in your electorate as any self-respecting Lankan MP would do.
(Time's up...start hanging with people your own age)
It's sad to see the slow humiliation of this once great batsmen, but on the flipside one wonders why he does it? I am sure its not for the money, having earned millions and millions over the years that could sustain the Jayasuriya's for a few generations.
I think he does it because he loves the game. He loves playing for his country, he loves going out to the middle with a willow in hand and he loves his slow left arm bowling.
It's almost as if he were obsessing after an ex-girlfriend that has left him. Your time's up Sanath, IF YOU TRULY LOVE SOMETHING YOU"LL LET IT GO.
Its almost ironic, just 3 years ago Sana boy was setting the Caribbean on fire with his destructive batting in the 50 over World Cup, the headlines then were about Atapattu not being played in the team. Now it seems that the tables have turned and to rub more salt in to his wounds: while most of us think that Marvan should have been in the team,how many of us harbour the same sentiment toward Sanath?
Sanath Jayasuriya had a meteoric rise to fame, first being included as a leggie and a useful middle order batsmen. His success at pinch-hitting prompted a promotion up the batting order and the rest as we all know was history in the making.
His batting record speaks for itself. He was one of the most feared and destructive batsmen in any form of the game, be it test, one day or T20's. But enough is enough, it time to say goodbye and let your legend live on Sanath. Time to head back to Matara and attend the funerals in your electorate as any self-respecting Lankan MP would do.
(Time's up...start hanging with people your own age)
It's sad to see the slow humiliation of this once great batsmen, but on the flipside one wonders why he does it? I am sure its not for the money, having earned millions and millions over the years that could sustain the Jayasuriya's for a few generations.
I think he does it because he loves the game. He loves playing for his country, he loves going out to the middle with a willow in hand and he loves his slow left arm bowling.
It's almost as if he were obsessing after an ex-girlfriend that has left him. Your time's up Sanath, IF YOU TRULY LOVE SOMETHING YOU"LL LET IT GO.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
The Wife, the Prostitute and the Golddigger
Let’s assume that there are three types of women out there as the title states, The Prostitute, The Gold Digger and the Wife.
The Prostitute is a woman who has sex with men for money. She does this for a living, usually because she has no choice in the matter. I really doubt anyone does this out of choice. In fact there’s that whole classic scenario that happens even here with the Chinese and possibly Russians who are told that they’ll be given a good job if they come to a particular country. Once they get here it’s another story entirely and it’s either work or go back home… except they’re paying for the ticket.
Porn stars are another matter entirely and the people who work in that business as certain unnamed people pointed out can be highly educated business people – yes even the women. Anyway last point about the prostitute, she is probably never ever going to complain probably because she doesn’t give a damn about you and will most likely never see you again.
The Gold Digger on the other hand is a woman who will do anything for her own security, wealth and comfort. The ultimate extreme would be marrying someone they care absolutely nothing about just for the money and comfortable life. There are plenty of women who are willing to do this… I suppose it’s a biological survival mechanism or something. But what is the difference between a woman like this and the prostitute?
The answer is quite simply the money. You see the prostitute is paid on a wage basis whereas the Gold Digger gets paid on a monthly basis… a salary if you will. The latter type of women will typically have a monthly expenditure amount that Hubby/Gold Mine is willing to put up with. While technically it can’t be seen like this, if you were to divide the amount of money she siphons off in to months or years you can work out the salary or annual gross.
Of course the job description is a little more complicated and can involve birthing and raising children in addition to being a smiley representative. These things are just not cheap. But such women are probably amicable as long as you can keep paying, though probably less amicable than the prostitute.
But you know what’s even more surprising… it’s the men who actually don’t mind marrying a woman like that. What exactly is going on in their heads? Do they even care? Are they anyway having affairs with a stand in wife to cover the fact and maintain appearances? If the latter is the case, then they are getting what they paid for I suppose: a total farce of marriage to keep people placated and stop asking questions.
Now we come in for the wife which is probably the most complicated. This ‘type’ of woman I assume would enter relationships for more suitable reasons such as building a long term commitment. Her duties aren't part of a salary package and she’s going to be squeezing out babies for absolutely no additional charge. The wife is also probably going to be very cranky and highly likely to complain and be an all around bitch.
Not surprising since she had the misfortune of loving your sorry ass. See that’s the main thing that would separate the wife from the other two; that iffy little word called ‘love’ and that’s the difference. The love of a woman is not for free, but you can't buy it… for it was never for sale.
The Prostitute is a woman who has sex with men for money. She does this for a living, usually because she has no choice in the matter. I really doubt anyone does this out of choice. In fact there’s that whole classic scenario that happens even here with the Chinese and possibly Russians who are told that they’ll be given a good job if they come to a particular country. Once they get here it’s another story entirely and it’s either work or go back home… except they’re paying for the ticket.
Porn stars are another matter entirely and the people who work in that business as certain unnamed people pointed out can be highly educated business people – yes even the women. Anyway last point about the prostitute, she is probably never ever going to complain probably because she doesn’t give a damn about you and will most likely never see you again.
The Gold Digger on the other hand is a woman who will do anything for her own security, wealth and comfort. The ultimate extreme would be marrying someone they care absolutely nothing about just for the money and comfortable life. There are plenty of women who are willing to do this… I suppose it’s a biological survival mechanism or something. But what is the difference between a woman like this and the prostitute?
The answer is quite simply the money. You see the prostitute is paid on a wage basis whereas the Gold Digger gets paid on a monthly basis… a salary if you will. The latter type of women will typically have a monthly expenditure amount that Hubby/Gold Mine is willing to put up with. While technically it can’t be seen like this, if you were to divide the amount of money she siphons off in to months or years you can work out the salary or annual gross.
Of course the job description is a little more complicated and can involve birthing and raising children in addition to being a smiley representative. These things are just not cheap. But such women are probably amicable as long as you can keep paying, though probably less amicable than the prostitute.
But you know what’s even more surprising… it’s the men who actually don’t mind marrying a woman like that. What exactly is going on in their heads? Do they even care? Are they anyway having affairs with a stand in wife to cover the fact and maintain appearances? If the latter is the case, then they are getting what they paid for I suppose: a total farce of marriage to keep people placated and stop asking questions.
Now we come in for the wife which is probably the most complicated. This ‘type’ of woman I assume would enter relationships for more suitable reasons such as building a long term commitment. Her duties aren't part of a salary package and she’s going to be squeezing out babies for absolutely no additional charge. The wife is also probably going to be very cranky and highly likely to complain and be an all around bitch.
Not surprising since she had the misfortune of loving your sorry ass. See that’s the main thing that would separate the wife from the other two; that iffy little word called ‘love’ and that’s the difference. The love of a woman is not for free, but you can't buy it… for it was never for sale.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Relationship Randoms
When people see a guy and girl hanging around together everyone automatically assumes that there is something going on. While naturally there is a strong precedent for such a belief as people of different genders hanging out together as a duet generally does convey an image of being a couple.
Sometimes however people really are just friends, but this doesn’t stop others from making a world of assumptions. This isn't the only form of speculation, so lets look at some others.
First off as a guy, there is sometimes the tendency to take even the slightest bit of attention from a woman as a message that ‘she likes me’. This is quite common I would argue. Secondly if a woman gets touchy with a guy it also sends more signals confirming the previous statement.
However looking at it from a female perspective the same actions can mean two different things and it really depends on the woman. Yes for some women being all touchy is clearly a message that says ‘Let’s Go’ but really I think that’s rare and more so in Sri Lanka. If anything it just means that a woman is comfortable with the guy and doesn’t even think of him in that way. But the guy on the other hand gets a complete wrong idea. In fact sometimes a woman who really likes someone will do the complete opposite by being distant from them and never daring to venture in to the physical realm.
Why? It’s quite simply really because it’s all in their heads. It’s the way they are thinking about it. If they like someone then the physical stuff actually means something. If they don’t like someone then it’s just like slapping a buddy on the back. So as a guy it’s probably important to not read too much in to the actions of women… after all we have no way of reading their minds as much as much as they might want us to be able to!
But let us not forget that there are some women who deliberately convey the wrong idea all for a bit of attention. They are out there. I assure you. Some guys do this too... but perhaps with more 'sinister' motives behind their actions!
On the other hand there are also some guys with a serious lack of exposure who know next to nothing about women. One creepy individual that I spoke to seemed to think that he could get married after a single date. That’s right… a SINGLE date! Ok… that’s not creepy right? Well he also seemed to be under the impression that his wife would be his sex slave. I listened to him with my jaw on the floor and when I tried to tell him that it wasn’t really going to be that way he insisted that he, I quote “would make her do it”. I pity his wife should he ever get married. The guy is 27 years old and clueless.
I'm sure there are also some women who have no idea what a man really is. Some even venture in to marriage before they really find out. Exposure can be (and I don't mean physical) so important.
Seems to me a lot of men just get married to have sex, especially in the more rural areas/or people with less education. A friend of mine had a servant in his house. She was going to leave because she was going to get married. My friend was telling me that her man was repeatedly saying “I love you baby… I love you baby” in what I assumed was generally a meaningless conversation. My reaction was “oh oh… that doesn’t sound good’ based on the stuff I mentioned before.
Anyway surprise surprise a while in to the marriage the woman had enough. She wanted to come back and work at my friend’s house. It’s not that the man was evil he was just thinking with the wrong body parts. It happens to every guy I would imagine at some point in time. And I don’t mean he was abusing her in any way. It’s just that going in to something with only a single idea in your mind is going to be a disaster. Maybe it’s the over importance that is ascribed to sex that makes people believe that it’s the entire world. All the guys I’ve ever spoken to confirm that it just doesn’t really change your life all that much. It’s an experience but not of life altering proportions.
Anyway this entire topic seems so murky with so little scientific analysis on it despite it potentially forming a significant part of our lives. Strange isn’t it?
Sometimes however people really are just friends, but this doesn’t stop others from making a world of assumptions. This isn't the only form of speculation, so lets look at some others.
First off as a guy, there is sometimes the tendency to take even the slightest bit of attention from a woman as a message that ‘she likes me’. This is quite common I would argue. Secondly if a woman gets touchy with a guy it also sends more signals confirming the previous statement.
However looking at it from a female perspective the same actions can mean two different things and it really depends on the woman. Yes for some women being all touchy is clearly a message that says ‘Let’s Go’ but really I think that’s rare and more so in Sri Lanka. If anything it just means that a woman is comfortable with the guy and doesn’t even think of him in that way. But the guy on the other hand gets a complete wrong idea. In fact sometimes a woman who really likes someone will do the complete opposite by being distant from them and never daring to venture in to the physical realm.
Why? It’s quite simply really because it’s all in their heads. It’s the way they are thinking about it. If they like someone then the physical stuff actually means something. If they don’t like someone then it’s just like slapping a buddy on the back. So as a guy it’s probably important to not read too much in to the actions of women… after all we have no way of reading their minds as much as much as they might want us to be able to!
But let us not forget that there are some women who deliberately convey the wrong idea all for a bit of attention. They are out there. I assure you. Some guys do this too... but perhaps with more 'sinister' motives behind their actions!
On the other hand there are also some guys with a serious lack of exposure who know next to nothing about women. One creepy individual that I spoke to seemed to think that he could get married after a single date. That’s right… a SINGLE date! Ok… that’s not creepy right? Well he also seemed to be under the impression that his wife would be his sex slave. I listened to him with my jaw on the floor and when I tried to tell him that it wasn’t really going to be that way he insisted that he, I quote “would make her do it”. I pity his wife should he ever get married. The guy is 27 years old and clueless.
I'm sure there are also some women who have no idea what a man really is. Some even venture in to marriage before they really find out. Exposure can be (and I don't mean physical) so important.
Seems to me a lot of men just get married to have sex, especially in the more rural areas/or people with less education. A friend of mine had a servant in his house. She was going to leave because she was going to get married. My friend was telling me that her man was repeatedly saying “I love you baby… I love you baby” in what I assumed was generally a meaningless conversation. My reaction was “oh oh… that doesn’t sound good’ based on the stuff I mentioned before.
Anyway surprise surprise a while in to the marriage the woman had enough. She wanted to come back and work at my friend’s house. It’s not that the man was evil he was just thinking with the wrong body parts. It happens to every guy I would imagine at some point in time. And I don’t mean he was abusing her in any way. It’s just that going in to something with only a single idea in your mind is going to be a disaster. Maybe it’s the over importance that is ascribed to sex that makes people believe that it’s the entire world. All the guys I’ve ever spoken to confirm that it just doesn’t really change your life all that much. It’s an experience but not of life altering proportions.
Anyway this entire topic seems so murky with so little scientific analysis on it despite it potentially forming a significant part of our lives. Strange isn’t it?
Saturday, August 22, 2009
The Truth About Love - Don't feel bad people
I've just had an epiphany thinking about the Dilemma of my own and of a friend. Please bear with me, this idea comes to me late in the night/ early in the morning, the time when most of my inspiration hits.
It is my belief that there are in fact 2 kinds of love. The real kind and the hyper kind.
The Hyper Kind:
This is the one we all commonly fall for. Super heated excitement. Heart Beating faster, we fumble around, tongues get tied and that person is on our minds all the time. We can think of nothing else. Its exciting, it involves dying for someone, loving someone so much that it hurts. Its dramatic.
I'm going to tell you now that this is not real love at all, but a madness, a temporary insanity driven by unbridled passion. Your entire being is swallowed up by this. You feel it is your entire life.
This kind of love is what I like to call 'the game'. Women love to chase that hard to obtain guy. Some guys are the same. It's exciting, its romantic, its dazzling. 'Ohh... how can I win him over? How can I get him to see me?' Its that chic flic kind of lets resolve everything in 2 hrs kind of thing. Its cheap self satisfaction, but it is so strong. But what happens once the guy/girl is caught? The excitement is over... and then the part where the real love should be comes in. The relationship can carry on due to established routine, can even get as far as marriage, but it will fall apart eventually, or carry on miserably, or in the most unusual scenario... the two people may unglamourously actually fall in love.
Real Love:
Is more of a choice. It's not glamorous, its not exciting. Its mundane, necessary and not really ever lasting. It involves going on your daily business over and over again.
Relationships are easy when there is a lot going on, people trying to stop you etc, but the hardest part of a relationship is when there is nothing going on, the perfectly mundane, the everyday. This is the part we never really see in our Hollywood movies which instead give us the thrilling on rails part. We never see the everyday part where our hero buys the bread and groceries for his wife or anything mundane? Why? Simply because its not exciting.
Real love is no where as intense as Hyper Love. Its a soft tender feeling for someone that you have. You don't want to die for that person or any shit like that, but you choose to stay with that person for no real reason exactly. It's not quantifiable. They are the ones in your life everyday. They are there for you in a quiet unexciting way. Most people fail to realize this. That's why you have the affair, when the Hyper Love comes knocking on your door, its exciting, trailblaizing and quite frankly far 'better'. Woah... my heart is beating so fast. Its like a drug.
But real love is where you stop yourself going over for such short sighted thrills. You decide the person you are with everyday is worth more than that cheap short thrill. Its not glamorous, its not exciting, but you do it because you truly love that person. Its not easy, it requires hard work. It involves sacrifice, and life changing long term compromise (but not cripplingly so). If your not willing to do this, then your not ready for something serious.
Its trivial, mundane, repititive and its beauty can only be seen when viewing the whole relationship. Any one day will never usually be that exciting. But sometimes we remind the other that we are together because we do love each other, whether its with a rose, a box of chocolates or some other small gesture that neither one is going to run and tell their friends "oh my god, oh my god.... he bought me another box of chocolates!!" or "I just bought my wife another rose... COOL"
This thought comes to me when a friend tells me her good friend settled with what I dubbed a 'nice safe man' which seemed to puzzle my friend. Its because that's the real lasting kind of love. Its a choice, one that you can stray from anytime...the one that requires all the commitment and hardwork. The one about paying the bills, sending the kids to school, doing the laundry, worrying about the mortgage. The one they'll never make a movie of, the one no one wants to hear about.
That's real love.
This post was inspired as a solution to a problem. But now suddenly at 3:00 in the morning this movie I saw a few years back comes to mind and makes greater sense. I see now that it is far more beautiful than I ever thought it was. Watch it and you'll understand what I mean.
Away from Her
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0491747/
It is my belief that there are in fact 2 kinds of love. The real kind and the hyper kind.
The Hyper Kind:
This is the one we all commonly fall for. Super heated excitement. Heart Beating faster, we fumble around, tongues get tied and that person is on our minds all the time. We can think of nothing else. Its exciting, it involves dying for someone, loving someone so much that it hurts. Its dramatic.
I'm going to tell you now that this is not real love at all, but a madness, a temporary insanity driven by unbridled passion. Your entire being is swallowed up by this. You feel it is your entire life.
This kind of love is what I like to call 'the game'. Women love to chase that hard to obtain guy. Some guys are the same. It's exciting, its romantic, its dazzling. 'Ohh... how can I win him over? How can I get him to see me?' Its that chic flic kind of lets resolve everything in 2 hrs kind of thing. Its cheap self satisfaction, but it is so strong. But what happens once the guy/girl is caught? The excitement is over... and then the part where the real love should be comes in. The relationship can carry on due to established routine, can even get as far as marriage, but it will fall apart eventually, or carry on miserably, or in the most unusual scenario... the two people may unglamourously actually fall in love.
Real Love:
Is more of a choice. It's not glamorous, its not exciting. Its mundane, necessary and not really ever lasting. It involves going on your daily business over and over again.
Relationships are easy when there is a lot going on, people trying to stop you etc, but the hardest part of a relationship is when there is nothing going on, the perfectly mundane, the everyday. This is the part we never really see in our Hollywood movies which instead give us the thrilling on rails part. We never see the everyday part where our hero buys the bread and groceries for his wife or anything mundane? Why? Simply because its not exciting.
Real love is no where as intense as Hyper Love. Its a soft tender feeling for someone that you have. You don't want to die for that person or any shit like that, but you choose to stay with that person for no real reason exactly. It's not quantifiable. They are the ones in your life everyday. They are there for you in a quiet unexciting way. Most people fail to realize this. That's why you have the affair, when the Hyper Love comes knocking on your door, its exciting, trailblaizing and quite frankly far 'better'. Woah... my heart is beating so fast. Its like a drug.
But real love is where you stop yourself going over for such short sighted thrills. You decide the person you are with everyday is worth more than that cheap short thrill. Its not glamorous, its not exciting, but you do it because you truly love that person. Its not easy, it requires hard work. It involves sacrifice, and life changing long term compromise (but not cripplingly so). If your not willing to do this, then your not ready for something serious.
Its trivial, mundane, repititive and its beauty can only be seen when viewing the whole relationship. Any one day will never usually be that exciting. But sometimes we remind the other that we are together because we do love each other, whether its with a rose, a box of chocolates or some other small gesture that neither one is going to run and tell their friends "oh my god, oh my god.... he bought me another box of chocolates!!" or "I just bought my wife another rose... COOL"
This thought comes to me when a friend tells me her good friend settled with what I dubbed a 'nice safe man' which seemed to puzzle my friend. Its because that's the real lasting kind of love. Its a choice, one that you can stray from anytime...the one that requires all the commitment and hardwork. The one about paying the bills, sending the kids to school, doing the laundry, worrying about the mortgage. The one they'll never make a movie of, the one no one wants to hear about.
That's real love.
This post was inspired as a solution to a problem. But now suddenly at 3:00 in the morning this movie I saw a few years back comes to mind and makes greater sense. I see now that it is far more beautiful than I ever thought it was. Watch it and you'll understand what I mean.
Away from Her
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0491747/
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Its dead, its gone.... its buried!
Its official! ROmance is dead! That would be the gist what i hope is not going to sound like a blog post written by a frustrated post menopausal woman on anti-depressants.
My story beings thus, since Skull and DRG already explained the Psycho Chick phenomenon it would suffice to say that the Psycho Chick whom i lusted after is no longer an object of my fascination. Why? She just isnt romantic enough. I know this sounds kinds strange because usually its the fairer sex that complains about men, not being romantically inclined.
But as I sit here in my bright green Arugam Bays, wearing a pink shirt.. i have finally realized what men all over the world are beginning to realize. The tables have been turned, the female gender has become the hunters and has relegated ( i don't mean to be sexist but after centuries of being the dominant gender,it is a bit of let down) to being the gatherers.
Women call the shots now, women fare better at school, are more adept at the workplace and though it isnt a genralisation..sometimes out earn their partners.
So with this dramatic shift of gender roles, what has it done to us men? Back to my Psycho Chick.. ( excuse the long drawn out tangent :p) During one of our many long conversations she told me that I should get a move on with my love life.. and that all the good 'chicks' are fast being snapped up...she proceeded to give me some advice concentrate on one girl until u get her... being the hopeless romantic I am, this did alarm be a bit, and i even thought it bordered upon being stalkerish.
What about love? What about Romance? When I meet the right girl things will just happen, there will be fireworks... was my response.. trying to in a round about kinda way to implicate her as the object of my desires. Her response: A loud laugh... that stuff's dead dude! Women don't look for emotional poets anymore. they look a decent guy who doesn't make an ass of himself ( by this time my ex-gf's parting words were ringing in my ear- i love u but ur just too messed up)... honestly is this true?
I mean don't women want love anymore? Has wild romanticism been replaced by compatibility... Whatever happened to riding off into the sunset? Has that been replaced by coffee dates at Barista's... Whatever happened to the days of romeo and juliet? Whatever happened to those French poets and romantics? Are company executives somehow more sexy than wildly adventurous investigative journalists or George Clooney look-alike surgeons working in war and famine stricken Africa?
Whatever happened to women who would swoon after romantic poets and artists and actors, do they now swoon after over-weight executives, bankers and human resource managers?
Does Romance mean nothing to u girls?
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
One night stand is the purest form of love…
They met in the morning, they fell in love in the afternoon, they made love in the evening and next day morning, they parted without leaving anything behind…
Does this signify love or is it just a mere bodily attraction? According to my point of view most important thing is that there’s no third party factors involved in these kinds of relationships. It depends on pure timing and both parties see some specialty of their opposite and immediately, it forms a bond between them. You can argue that the factor which kindles these kinds of relationships may be beauty or wealth but if they are so engaged based on that kind of information they’ll never break their bond in the morning next day because at least one party will have a material benefit other than pleasure from their relationship. They neither have a past nor a future so they solely depend on the present moment thus made them lovers by the moment.
They become one when they make love and that’s the climax of their beautiful bond. It may also be the eternal moment where this world will see the glimpse of the real love because in that moment one party let other to take control of his or her soul and other factors such as society, norms, culture and family will all be left behind for that one glorious yet so fragile moment.
So that’s the moment where the world sees the purest form of love…
Open for criticism…
Soundtrack from the world's greatest romantic film maker Wong Kar Wai's sci-fi romance masterpiece 2046
Does this signify love or is it just a mere bodily attraction? According to my point of view most important thing is that there’s no third party factors involved in these kinds of relationships. It depends on pure timing and both parties see some specialty of their opposite and immediately, it forms a bond between them. You can argue that the factor which kindles these kinds of relationships may be beauty or wealth but if they are so engaged based on that kind of information they’ll never break their bond in the morning next day because at least one party will have a material benefit other than pleasure from their relationship. They neither have a past nor a future so they solely depend on the present moment thus made them lovers by the moment.
They become one when they make love and that’s the climax of their beautiful bond. It may also be the eternal moment where this world will see the glimpse of the real love because in that moment one party let other to take control of his or her soul and other factors such as society, norms, culture and family will all be left behind for that one glorious yet so fragile moment.
So that’s the moment where the world sees the purest form of love…
Open for criticism…
Soundtrack from the world's greatest romantic film maker Wong Kar Wai's sci-fi romance masterpiece 2046
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Love is a Lie
Love is supposed to be pure , the strongest of strongest bonds. Some kind of unbreakable union of two people, and one of the most positive and beautiful concepts that we have. But it's a lie.
Why do I say this? Well for starters I've been alive for around 20 years and I'm pretty sure I've never ever felt this emotion. I'm beginning to doubt anyone else has either. There are lots of people out there who say "I Love Her" or "I Love Him" shortly after meeting, or if they never ever even get to know the person. It's all exciting and fun dreaming about what you will never have, I know because I'm guilty as charged. Whoa... that PERFECT girl, but watch out, better keep my distance, because Lord if I actually see her for real, she'll never measure up to those ideals in my head.
What I am sure exists is lust. That I feel everyday, and it brings about strange and confusing feelings of something that mimics the concept of love. But I know from experience that its short lived, a temporary madness. Now maybe you're saying this guy is completely heartless (Thank You!), but hold your horses!
Once I met this girl, and we hit it off so well. It was like magic, I felt like this was the shit, I would do anything for her, blady blady blah. But due to circumstances we were separated. So a year later I was really excited to meet her, but when I saw her again it had all fizzled out and I was thinking 'Oh my God... what the hell was I thinking?' I can assure you that if I had stuck with this girl the previous time, silly little thoughts of "Marriage" would no doubt have entered my mind. But I wonder if I had somehow gotten married... where the hell would I be now? In hell probably after everything fizzled out.
A friend of mine met this Girl some time back, and he was like madly in 'Love', everything is 'perfect' he told me. 'We're planning on getting married!' I was like "What? How long have you been dating her?' The shocking answer? 3 Weeks! Naturally I warned him of madness. I don't think he took heed.
I wonder just how many people end up getting married after enjoying the exciting start... don't they know the expression 'the honeymoon's over?' But I think divorce rates are on the rise... too bad it's not what's sold in the media.
A teacher of mine once attacked the institution of marriage, but me being a robot drone at the time, I wouldn't even consider the possibility. The argument was that long ago people got married at 16. The guy would enjoy that 'HAPPY TIME :)' shortly before going off to war where he would soon die. And I'm talking medieval times as well as ancient civilizations and further back in to the past, going back to marriage's extremely ancient origins. Is it still relevant today?
I also heard a statement a few years ago that astounded me. Brainwashed by all the popular lovey dovey media like so many people, it always seemed so cool to have that relationship that would have to endure all kinds of hardships. You know like that everyone is against it thing including the government and the World! How exciting.... Woooh! Just like da Movies!
But then this person says something that gobsmacks me. The statement went something like this "Most people believe that its hardest to have a relationship during the hard times, when so many things are against it. The truth is the hardest time in a relationship is when everything is going fine... just plain ordinary fine, no excitement." That's very true, it's all easy to feel excited and all if you're fighting the EVIL EMPIRE to save your girls life, but if its just doing the groceries or something... hmmm... not cool! Dealing with the mundane, pretty much what everyone experiences everyday is way harder than dealing with insurmountable odds when it comes to love!
I ask you this... if Love is some unbreakable bond as advertised, how can we ever hear the line "I don't love you anymore?"
Love is a beautiful concept... but is it real? I leave with the latest piece of media that has come my way depicting this beautiful and ideal love. It's a nice fantasy... but just a fantasy nonetheless.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Falling in love with a Psycho Chick...
“Umbata nikan hithen nadda arakita tikak pissu kiyala ha?”
They talk… talk until the whole world ends with a big bang. They are hyperactive and so alive that sometimes you feel that there’s nothing to be so in this cold boring world. They smile from their whole heart and astonish you every time with their unusual perky ways. Sometimes you want to slap them in the face and say get off this life and be like any other ordinary girl. But sometimes you want kiss them in public and hug them tightly because you are afraid that the time you are having with this mischievous, unorthodox and out of this world girl will be lost forever if you don’t protect her.
It’s a pity that I fell in love with a girl like that sometime back and i felt compelled to write this down. It’s not going to happen; it’s too good to be true… yep! But one thing that the whole world can’t deny is that at some point in our lives, even for one moment we were in love with them, truly and eternally. We are like sky and earth but still we love them, we love their ways and all those tiny tit bit things they do. We love their smile, their openness, the life they are giving.
We are ultimately on a road where there’s no end because she’s now somebody else’s. But still we can’t get out of this feeling. May be its just obsession or may be its another aspect of real true love, because it’s a one party love or we are just a bunch of losers who don’t have nothing to do except for thinking about someone else’s girl.
Hmmmmmm. I can’t see the end of this so I have to end this post before it gets too reflective and boring. But one thing I’m sure is that I am grateful to this life or for that matter any creator of mankind, (if someone like that exists) because even in some point in our lives we were in love. It’ll be most probably the first and the last time that I might fall in love like this in my life because I FELL IN LOVE WITH A PSYCHO CHICK!!!
It’s a pity that I fell in love with a girl like that sometime back and i felt compelled to write this down. It’s not going to happen; it’s too good to be true… yep! But one thing that the whole world can’t deny is that at some point in our lives, even for one moment we were in love with them, truly and eternally. We are like sky and earth but still we love them, we love their ways and all those tiny tit bit things they do. We love their smile, their openness, the life they are giving.
We are ultimately on a road where there’s no end because she’s now somebody else’s. But still we can’t get out of this feeling. May be its just obsession or may be its another aspect of real true love, because it’s a one party love or we are just a bunch of losers who don’t have nothing to do except for thinking about someone else’s girl.
Hmmmmmm. I can’t see the end of this so I have to end this post before it gets too reflective and boring. But one thing I’m sure is that I am grateful to this life or for that matter any creator of mankind, (if someone like that exists) because even in some point in our lives we were in love. It’ll be most probably the first and the last time that I might fall in love like this in my life because I FELL IN LOVE WITH A PSYCHO CHICK!!!
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