Temptation is a very common emotion that all people big, small, male, female, saint, sinner go through. The very sound of the word brings a sense of intense desire. If simply defined, temptation is the feeling of a non-reasonable desire or craving to do something.
This desire may be for both good and bad but it is always close to being impossible to control. We may be tempted to serve that extra helping of pudding, to smoke a cigar just to test it, to cheat an exam with the sole reason of innocent helplessness, to dance in the middle of the mall, to kiss the sexy girl at office out of plain curiosity when you’re not with your lady, etc, etc. Temptations are everywhere but not all of them are good or ethical.
In this post I will only be commenting on the temptation to cheat a lover (at any level), for this appeared to be the talk of the week among my peeps.
The temptation to be with someone other than your lover (this phrase sounds a bit better than going into details such as kissing or making love to) may have knocked on some of our doors. It may be due to the most uncalled for reasons- the “other” being a better match, the “lover” not being who he/she appeared to be initially, the “situation” being pro-temptation, it just being a harmless one night stand, a “slight crush” which you wanted to investigate, etc. I can list down a lot more yet there’s just one simple fact about this natural human weakness and that is there is no such thing as “not having a choice”. The old phrase “I had no choice” is plainly not an innocent excuse because Temptation (which ever one) always comes hand in hand with Choice. All of us make a choice when we decide to fall into or out of temptation.
It’s true that we’re all human and are full of mortal weaknesses and all that “learning from mistakes” talk, but if there’s something common to all of us, it’s freewill and the ability to think. This fact makes the “no choice” phrase highly unacceptable.
So the next time you decide to try out that tempting cigar or chocolate mousse or French kiss, just pause to choose!
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Using Your Diary to Feed Off Depression….
I love it, or rather I used to. But now I have intentionally kept away from it. Its time consuming, depressive and hurl you into a downward spiral of emotional anarchy. Well cant help it but i am quite an emotional person, most people can read it off me, but what the hell...
Yeah I know it’s creepy but dwelling on emotions and getting a ridiculous sense of self-satisfaction is something I used to do quite often in the past. It helped me in dire situations, gave me a sense of belonging when everything seemed to have left me and kept me alone.
I know quite a few people who have their own personal diaries, poetry books and all sorts of material to deal with personal emations. Poetry did help but its not quite as effective as directly talking off an issue. My diary is like my own life mirror made of ink and paper. It reflects series of days in mylife which I had time to note down. Though it started off as a well documented journal which kept track of what I did through those days,(as i tend to have a short memory) but it later became my own personal refuge.
I would down pour my thoughts ideas and intentions, debate with myself and create another aspect of myself which most of my friends did not even know. These out poured thoughts resembled failures, secrets and utterfoolsih ideas and even political and social issues that roamed my mind.
The tremendous amount of work, time spent on studies and tight schedules have distanced me from what I used to be. These days I don’t think that much compared to past where I used to get lost in my own imagination exploring vivid dreams, personalities and come out with all kinds of judgments. Well yeah I know it’s just the thinking process any human has, but as some of my friends know, I some times spend too much time over things which anyone else would make up their mind easily. Any way these observations helped me to deal with people, to make wrong choices and sometimes to make my life more miserable than before…
But I still maintain my diary, though not as frequent as during those days. In fact I have put down only a few notes for the whole year, compared to past where I used to have long dragging pages dedicated even for few days. Even this post that i am writing now would have ended up in my diary if it weren't for the bloggersphere...lol
Well… as I have seen, the bloggersphere has also become some kind of a personal refuge for many people. It has become a place where they would come out of their shells, share their thoughts and personal sentiments with likeminded individuals(or not!). Pass out subliminal messages, talk off politics and hit out senselessly which they might not be able to do physically in the real world. I have seen this in form of various types of creative writting, poetry and vivid images.
Hmm..so if you think about it,one can term the whole bloggerspher or rather Kottu as a huge mashed up diary....
Yeah I know it’s creepy but dwelling on emotions and getting a ridiculous sense of self-satisfaction is something I used to do quite often in the past. It helped me in dire situations, gave me a sense of belonging when everything seemed to have left me and kept me alone.
I know quite a few people who have their own personal diaries, poetry books and all sorts of material to deal with personal emations. Poetry did help but its not quite as effective as directly talking off an issue. My diary is like my own life mirror made of ink and paper. It reflects series of days in mylife which I had time to note down. Though it started off as a well documented journal which kept track of what I did through those days,(as i tend to have a short memory) but it later became my own personal refuge.
I would down pour my thoughts ideas and intentions, debate with myself and create another aspect of myself which most of my friends did not even know. These out poured thoughts resembled failures, secrets and utterfoolsih ideas and even political and social issues that roamed my mind.
The tremendous amount of work, time spent on studies and tight schedules have distanced me from what I used to be. These days I don’t think that much compared to past where I used to get lost in my own imagination exploring vivid dreams, personalities and come out with all kinds of judgments. Well yeah I know it’s just the thinking process any human has, but as some of my friends know, I some times spend too much time over things which anyone else would make up their mind easily. Any way these observations helped me to deal with people, to make wrong choices and sometimes to make my life more miserable than before…
But I still maintain my diary, though not as frequent as during those days. In fact I have put down only a few notes for the whole year, compared to past where I used to have long dragging pages dedicated even for few days. Even this post that i am writing now would have ended up in my diary if it weren't for the bloggersphere...lol
Well… as I have seen, the bloggersphere has also become some kind of a personal refuge for many people. It has become a place where they would come out of their shells, share their thoughts and personal sentiments with likeminded individuals(or not!). Pass out subliminal messages, talk off politics and hit out senselessly which they might not be able to do physically in the real world. I have seen this in form of various types of creative writting, poetry and vivid images.
Hmm..so if you think about it,one can term the whole bloggerspher or rather Kottu as a huge mashed up diary....
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Heart Vs Mind
People can be categorized into two; those of us dominated by our hearts and those of us whose minds are more dominating. These two types can again be named as “emotional” people and “rational” people.
In history we find successful lives of both these kinds of people in various fields. Yet the debate arises as to which kind of us is more effective in decision making and successfulness in life.
A person’s whose mind is the most dominating will be more rational thinking, evaluating all decisions in a logical and realistic manner, weighing pros and cons, inputs and outputs and more or less having a plan A and B for most of life’s actions-he will be someone who will try to get either more than he gives or an exact equal output.
A person dominated by the heart is in most cases someone who sees the good in everything-sometimes even when it’s not there, who is willing to make huge sacrifices to achieve something relatively small in worldly value, who will deny all logical reasoning and undergo much difficulty to enjoy a simple happiness, who is ready to face losses in order to make another gain profits.
So who is more successful in life?
A “mind” person may appear to be more selfish and output driven, which will win him good results and attainments but perhaps very few people, that too not out of love or devotion but out of power and force. A “heart” person may seem to be selfless and process-driven, reaping fewer results but many a good heart, and may be some instances of “being taken for granted”.
Which will be more valuable and consistent? Achievements (monetary and the like) or good people (to stand by you)? It is almost impossible to find a 50-50 heart-mind person, thus which is the best combo, more heart and less mind or vice versa?
In history we find successful lives of both these kinds of people in various fields. Yet the debate arises as to which kind of us is more effective in decision making and successfulness in life.
A person’s whose mind is the most dominating will be more rational thinking, evaluating all decisions in a logical and realistic manner, weighing pros and cons, inputs and outputs and more or less having a plan A and B for most of life’s actions-he will be someone who will try to get either more than he gives or an exact equal output.
A person dominated by the heart is in most cases someone who sees the good in everything-sometimes even when it’s not there, who is willing to make huge sacrifices to achieve something relatively small in worldly value, who will deny all logical reasoning and undergo much difficulty to enjoy a simple happiness, who is ready to face losses in order to make another gain profits.
So who is more successful in life?
A “mind” person may appear to be more selfish and output driven, which will win him good results and attainments but perhaps very few people, that too not out of love or devotion but out of power and force. A “heart” person may seem to be selfless and process-driven, reaping fewer results but many a good heart, and may be some instances of “being taken for granted”.
Which will be more valuable and consistent? Achievements (monetary and the like) or good people (to stand by you)? It is almost impossible to find a 50-50 heart-mind person, thus which is the best combo, more heart and less mind or vice versa?
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